Two more among the many murderers and terrorists that we’ve seen neighbors recall on the evening news as “such nice boys”…"never would have suspected them”…"shocked”…"angels.” When the true “angels” in all these stories are the victims.
Time and time again, we see that we don’t really have the social skills necessary to understand the “whole” person. Can you truly understand the horror that someone – in reality, a stranger to you – is capable of, by watching them do the same things you do?
They go to school. They participate in sports. They have outside interests like music. So what? So do you. Of course they appear “normal” to you. Irony of ironies, we come to find out, we are all in some strange competition, in which very few win, and most lose. Losing makes many people mad.
>>>Where did they come from? Do you know that area’s history, its winners and losers, and its impact on them?
>>>Where do they live now? Are you familiar with that culture, how it ranks the winners and losers among them, and its impact?
>>>Who else do they “do things” with? They aren’t the same people you know – what impact do these people, and the sense of competition, have on their full selves?
We can even read the public declarations they write about themselves on Facebook, with the true meaning of those words incomprehensible to us. Are they references to winning, or to losing?
It’s called “context,” and we don’t have it.
It’s as laughable as the research we see touted so much in the marketing world (examples of which we dissect for you on this blog, probably way too often). Everyone uses a smartphone in Best Buy, the researchers declare. Everyone eats organic, says the latest poll. Everyone wants a hybrid car. Survey after survey, telling us we should be “shocked” if we see or hear anyone behaving differently.
Yet the different behavior goes on, and on. And on.
Right under our noses, pressed as they are into tablets and smartphones and laptops and game consoles.